“Has it ever struck you that life is all memory, except for the one present moment that goes by you so quick you hardly catch it going?” – Tennessee Williams, The Milk Train Doesn’t Stop Here Anymore

“the subject’s gaze is always-already inscribed into the perceived object itself, in the guise of its ‘blind spot,’ that which is ‘in the object more than the object itself,’ the point from which the object returns the gaze.” – “As Zizek describes it, The standard definition of parallax is: the apparent displacement of an object (the shift of its position against a background), caused by a change in observational position that provides a new line of sight. The philosophical twist to be added, of course, is that the observed difference is not simply “subjective,” due to the fact that the same object which exists “out there” is seen from two different stances, or points of view. It is rather that, as Hegel would have put it, subject and object are inherently ‘mediated,’ so that an ‘epistemological’ shift in the subjects point of view always reflects an ‘ontological’ shift in the object itself.” – via levipaulbryant – via Larval Subjects – The Parallx View – Slavoj Zizek

Lacan doesn’t say that love is a disguise for sexual relationships; he says that sexual relationships don’t exist, that love is what comes to replace that non-relationship. That’s much more interesting. This idea leads him to say that in love the other tries to approach “the being of the other”. In love the individual goes beyond himself, beyond the narcissistic. In sex, you are really in a relationship with yourself via the mediation of the other. The other helps you to discover the reality of pleasure. In love, on the contrary the mediation of the other is enough in itself. Such is the nature of the amorous encounter: you go to take on the other, to make him or her exist with you, as he or she is. It is a much more profound conception of love than the entirely banal view that love is no more than an imaginary canvas painted over the reality of sex.

Alain Badiou, In Praise of Love

the dialectic of the Law and its transgression … is clearly “masculine”or phallic:it involves the tension between the All (the universal Law)and its constitutive exception.Love,on the other hand,is “feminine”:it involves the paradoxes of the non-All. The notion of sexual difference that underlies the formulas of sexuation in Seminar XX is strictly synonymous with Lacan’s proposition that “there’s no such thing as a sexual relationship.

Slavoj Zizek