“Shame is awakened ..when one suddenly perceives a lack in the Other. ..Shame is awakened ..when she ..no longer experiences herself as a fulfillment of the Other’s desire, as the center of the world ..causing a distance.” – One experiences one’s visibility, but there is no external Other who sees, since shame is proof that the Other does not exist. .. Shame ..is not that “superegoic” ..feeling of guilt, ..an uncancelable debt to the Other, but is ..that which wipes out the debt. – JOAN COPJEC on the liberating potential of understanding one’s own shame http://ift.tt/1KBpP3y