“But we pay a price. After years of turning people away, of protecting our inner self, of cultivating it by living in a different world, of furnishing this world with our fantasies and dreams—lo and behold we find that we are hopelessly separated from everyone else.” – We become masters at dissimulation, at cultivating a self that the world cannot probe. ..We have become victims of our own art. We touch people on the outsides of their bodies, and they us, but we cannot get at their insides and cannot reveal our insides to them.

– ERNEST BECKER

“People seem to keep bumping up against each other with their exteriors and falling away from each other. ..Many people pursue sex precisely because it is a mystique of the overcoming of the separateness of the inner world;” – they go from one partner to another because they can never quite achieve ‘it.’ So the endless interrogations: ‘What are you thinking about right now—me? Do you feel what I feel? Do you love me?”

– ERNEST BECKER

“What most people usually do is to follow one person’s ideas and then another’s depending on who looms largest on one’s horizon at the time.” – The one with the deepest voice, the strongest appearance, the most authority and success, is usually the one who gets our momentary allegiance; and we try to pattern our ideals after him. But as life goes on we get a perspective on this and all these different versions of truth become a little pathetic.

– ERNEST BECKER