“in sexual activity, the fantasy gaze observing us is always there: the most elementary fantasmatic scene,..the notion that “we are objects in someone else’s dream”” – SLAVOJ ZIZEK

“There is nothing more dangerous..for the loved person than to be loved..for not what he or she is, but for fitting the ideal. ..Which is why, when we discover that we were wrong, love can quickly turn into violence.” – ” All too often, when we love somebody, we..accept him or her..insofar as this person fits the co-ordinates of our fantasy.” – Slavoj Zizek – alterities/love