“Love is not an illusory One of imaginary fusion covering up the underlying deadlock of the sexual relationship; authentic love is ..the ultimate case of a weird “one” in which this very non-relationship is embodied” – slavoj zizek


“it is not just polite censorship that prevents the direct invitation, “Let’s go up and have sex!”—coffee or something like it has to be mentioned to provide the fantasmatic frame for sex.” – “I’m not sure if I want to have sex or watch a movie, so what if we just go up and have a cup of coffee?” Why does the direct invitation for sex not work? Because the true problem is not that coffee is never fully coffee, but that sex is never fully sex, that there is no sexual relationship, which is why the sexual act needs a fantasmatic supplement.