“Love is not an illusory One of imaginary fusion covering up the underlying deadlock of the sexual relationship; authentic love is ..the ultimate case of a weird “one” in which this very non-relationship is embodied” – slavoj zizek
“love supplements the ..underlying deadlock of the sexual relationship;” – Slavoj Zizek citing Lacan
“the sexual relationship is doomed to fail, since in it a man does not relate directly to a woman – his relating to a woman is always mediated by a third term, the objet a” – SLAVOJ ZIZEK
“it is not just polite censorship that prevents the direct invitation, “Let’s go up and have sex!”—coffee or something like it has to be mentioned to provide the fantasmatic frame for sex.” – “I’m not sure if I want to have sex or watch a movie, so what if we just go up and have a cup of coffee?” Why does the direct invitation for sex not work? Because the true problem is not that coffee is never fully coffee, but that sex is never fully sex, that there is no sexual relationship, which is why the sexual act needs a fantasmatic supplement.
– SLAVOJ ZIZEK
“‘would-you-like-to-go-upstairs-for-a-coffee’..What is repressed [in these words, is what makes this way of phrasing sex necessary for it] is what is missing in sex itself, the inherent impossibility/failure of sex” – Slavoj Zizek, Absolute Recoil, 2014
“the direct invitation for sex not work..because the true problem is not that coffee is never fully coffee, but that sex is never fully sex, that there is no sexual relationship, which is why the sexual act needs a fantasmatic supplement.” – SLAVOJ ZIZEK on why one says ‘would you like to go upstairs for a coffee’