“The ideal person in our mind becomes a refuge from realer exchanges with realer people.” – ADAM PHILLIPS on how “we never recover from ..inventing an ideal object of desire with whom we will never feel the frustration we fear” http://ift.tt/1cvJNNe


“Each time it is necessary to take on a symbolic position, there is only a void. ..The symbolic Other is not there to situate him + so all he is left with is his own image, unanchored. ..And so, perhaps, comes the certainty of being worthless ..or condemned + the ..identification with the dead” – DARIAN LEADER on the lost one as the lost Other who was able to situate us + on the melancholic’s lack of such “an ideal point ..from which he can see’ himself as lovable http://ift.tt/1J17OIN