“There’s a tendency ..to valorize melancholia ..for being somehow more “ethical” than mourning..— but this ..ignores the ..link between melancholia + narcissism” – REBECCA COMAY (via rebecca-comay) http://ift.tt/1Am4KWk

“The melancholic incessantly verbalises self-reproach. ..Freud notes a ‘trait of insistent communicativeness which finds satisfaction in self-exposure’” – Death-and-Desire-in-Hegel-Heidegger-and-Deleuze http://ift.tt/1cxiguU

With no stable anchoring point, no fixity in the way the melancholic situates himself in relation to the Other, how can any ideal point be established from which the person can see themselves as lovable? … The entry into the symbolic world where one’s position is fixed in the symbolic network is barred. Each time it is necessary to take on a symbolic position, there is only a void. This is exactly the melancholics problem: the symbolic Other is not there to situate him, and so all he is left with is his own image, unanchored and unchained…

darian leader

Mourning involves the process of establishing the denial of a positive term, a recognition of absence and loss. We accept that a presence is no longer there. Melancholia, on the other hand, involves the affirmation of a negative term. The lost loved one becomes a hole, an ever-present void which the melancholic cannot give up his attachment to.

Mourning, Melancholia And Depression, p199